in reply to Elizabeth

the best teachers are those that admit to not know everything and are willing to correct themselves based off new facts.

  • That being said, it really depends upon the context.
    • I remember fondly how a biology teacher "professionally folded flat" some cisbinarysexist dude in class by saying:



Gender and Sex is more complex than 5th grade SexEd!
Sit down [REDACTED], because if it was that easy I would not have studied biology.
You're hereby tasked to present next week Friday about why Gender and Sex ain't solely Gonosomes and espechally not binary.
You have all the research of the last 100+ years at your disposal.


Needless to say he failed that presentation colossally because he couldn't be assed to even follow the cited sources as per Wikipedia...

  • And that's despite her offering him temporary access to the local University Library and publication access...
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in reply to 🩷 Stella

I’ve learned a lot by failing a lot but I also have a ton of things i just don’t know and they’re the much more invisible things that don’t impact my life much simply because my mom was a good mother and taught me and made me try the more visible and obvious things like “cooking” or “being independent” or “being threatened by a bitch”

and they’re things that drain the satisfaction of life out of me because I don’t know how to feel satisfied in life and all the things I haven’t had are things I haven’t tried. I think I want to move in with someone not even necessarily a partner just literally anyone I like the vibes of but also every single person has told me that if you have the option to not live with others you shouldn’t live with others and I’m now just eternally scared of all the consequences and implications and logistics. but I’m also deeply dissatisfied with being alone. I’m tired of having online relationships that never go anywhere and I’m tired of constantly overexerting my social battery in order to reach out to people because people still don’t really talk to me on their own. I’m tired of being told I “shouldn’t move countries just because of love” because the single best decision of my life was to move to Spain. I’m tired of being told how to do relationships because the more I “know” and the more patterns I “recognise” the more dissatisfied I feel with relationships and the more apathetic I get with my own feelings and the less I open up about them because they’re all just the same story again. I’m tired of being told how not to socialise as if I hadn’t already been hurt a ton wrt socialisation before. I’m tired of people assuming my struggles from my age and further assuming the reasons of my struggles from my age. ah yes I’m 20 so when I say I’m dissatisfied with love and life I’m just being a dramatic teen who lost a partner. I’m tired. I guess I’m depressed but that’s not really meaningful anymore because it’s not impacting my life so therefore it’s psychiatrically insignificant.

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in reply to 🩷 Stella

@twinkle living with a good roommate is great! Who the fuck told you living alone is best? It has tradeoffs of course. But it helps the loneliness.

I’m gonna let you in on a secret: finding love is a non-linear process with no guarantees of success. I would know 😔. I could spend the rest of my life alone and live, but it would feel like something was missing. But I’m not gonna compromise either. I know what I like and what I will accept. I’m not gonna hollow myself out or shrink myself for anyone. Make sense?

But that’s me. As long as you’re not hurting people there’s no right or wrong way and you just… kinda have to learn these things.

Also holy shit you’re 20.