This is a question for the younger adults. Those in your 20s and 30s. There have been a few surveys and articles about how "young people are having less sex" and "young people aren't getting married"
And then some people will say there is a "loneliness epidemic"
How real is this? Are these things even connected?
There are fewer marriages but also far fewer divorces which, to me, kind of sounds like a good thing?
But I rarely hear about the low divorce rate in this context.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •In fact the "young people are having less sex" stat is normally reported alongside similar stats showing smoking tobacco and drinking are less popular.
I've only once seen it alongside the marriage stat... which is odd isn't it? At least if you were expecting reporting to reflect "traditional values."
I also suspect some young people aren't dating or getting married or even going on vacation or having a drink ... because they are BROKE and working their fingers to the bone to survive.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •All through the 80s and early 90s the news was dominated by stories about the "divorce epidemic" and "single moms" also "latch-key kids"
Then something shifted and I think people are less likely to get married due to outside pressure and social expectations, and more likely to do it because they just really like being married. (That's why I did it. 10/10 best choice ever.)
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I wonder, if like crime, if you asked people if divorce is a big problem if people would still overestimate it?
The fall in the divorce rate presents a problem for conservatives who want to talk about how "the family is being destroyed" (which family? how?)
But I wonder if people still think that a large number of marriages are ending in divorce.
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Divorce is sometimes the right thing to do. And a low divorce rate could be a bad thing if people were feeling financially, or emotionally "trapped" in bad marriages.
But the rates are way down, it's one many remarkable social shifts that doesn't get talked about very much.
In my social circle there are very few divorces, but there are also not as many marriages as I think my mom might have seen.
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in reply to California tidy tips • • •@thesquirrelfish @GinevraCat
That brings it back to economics IMO.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • •@myrmepropagandist @GinevraCat @California tidy tips
Ya, don't ever get the idea that holy matrimony was any kind of spiritual sacrament to anybody except Wall Street's finance sharks.
In considering the "young people' demographic, one is required to factor in student loan debt because all spouses are liable for the mate's student loan repayments. At the time the law permitting this practice passed, it was presumed that wedlock = loanlock because nearly everybody could be expected to get married. Pharma presumed everybody married was going to have babies and so that was supposed to be a medical gold mine too. Landlords presumed married young people necessarily move out of their parents' house, and so on.
The young people demographic have a lot more than a double whammy to look at, that didn't exist for previous generations, and you can thank every GOP regime beginning with Bonnie Ronnie Reagan for all of that.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •Any younger folks are less healthy than they used to be, so this will also be more impactful than we remember.
BlueWinds
in reply to California tidy tips • • •@thesquirrelfish @claralistensprechen5th @GinevraCat This is literally why I'm not married - if I marry my life-partner of 15 years and counting, she loses her insurance, disability benefits, and I become liable for her defaulted student loans.
It would be a huge financial hit.
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in reply to BlueWinds • • •Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •@thesquirrelfish @GinevraCat I find amongst younger people there seem to be fewer long term relationships and people wait until late 20s/early 30s to have children.
Also way fewer children for last 20 years, I was in the Maternity Ward building of the general hospital earlier this year (it has 9 floors and is one of the tallest in town so we put up an antenna and installed a new transmitter for the community radio station) and only 2-3 floors of it are now in regular use ..
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in reply to Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK • • •@vfrmedia @thesquirrelfish @GinevraCat Wild statistic, but it kinda checks out around here as well. Maternity wards are smaller and according to friends of mine with kids, the level of care/service/time the parent + baby spends in the maternity ward has gone way down as well.
Almost no one I know has kids because childhood in the USA is so miserable (and dangerous) that it's hard to get excited about dooming someone else to it.
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I have hybrid working and drive to the office in the afternoon, there are noticeably fewer children around (even at school finishing times) and even during summer holidays I didn't notice that many in my street or the surrounding areas). A mutual from Germany said the same thing has happened in his area (and its likely common throughout Northern Europe)
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in reply to Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UK • • •@vfrmedia
Come to the Bronx we have kids up to our eyeballs.
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Park slope too. There are 3 other children on just my block born the same month as my daughter
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No, I don't think it's an increase in number of children, just a generally high count.
A daycare in the area was just sold and I think will be turned down for condos
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •It used to be that married couples got a slight break on their income taxes (on the assumption that the incomes were unequal), but Reagan eliminated that with his "tax cut" in the 80s.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •it's still a very persistent idea nowadays (he said, having only anecdotal evidence).
It seems to me it's a lingering outdated fact which used to be true and used both for and against changes in our societies. Now that the numbers tell us the divorce rate is far lower (and has been for some time), there isn't the same push to publicize that fact, because it's "as it should be." (Not sure I'm being very clear, here.)
myrmepropagandist
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If people start getting married at younger ages again the divorce rate will go back up.
Unless they make women property again and I don't even think I can totally rule that one out at this point.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •The bitter irony of the "family is being destroyed" crowd destroying families by trying to ban gay marriage, scapegoating and persecuting trans people, deporting parts of perfectly happy families over minor paperwork errors or nothing...
I almost don't like to point out hypocrisy any more because to do so implies some set of shared vales and a capacity for caring that simply isn't there.
But I am very upset about all of these "attacks on the family" and how "the family is being destroyed"
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I’m 37 so I think I fall outside this. When I was coming up the hand wringing was all about hook up culture and how *much* casual sex we were having. But at this point most of my friends are married. One friend has gotten a divorce.
In my broader social environment I would say there’s relatively little divorce and when it happens it’s basically always: “I had kids with this man and then he got overwhelmed by what it takes to parent and turned into an additional child to take care of”
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“I had kids with this man and then he got overwhelmed by what it takes to parent and turned into an additional child to take care of”
Tale as old as time.
Being a parent is a lot.
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i've heard more than once after a woman divorces a man-child
'i knew being a single parent would be difficult, but it is so much easier not having a grown man wanting me to be his maid, cook and mommy thwarting me at every turn'
paraphrasing of course, but that is the gist of it
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I hope someday you can look back on how you spent your time on a nice Saturday (trying to be a jackass on the internet) and you can have the maturity and perspective to feel regret about not doing something better with this limited time we each have on this earth. You could be learning about nature! Studying math! Calling a friend! Falling in love! Writing a book!
But instead you did this.
I want that kind of growth for you. This is really pathetic.
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in reply to fknretardlol • • •of nothing
in reply to fknretardlol • • •it's just an abbreviation: национал-социалистский
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Abbreviations are never slurs. There's no hate to them. It's literally just a word that means the same thing that a supporter would mean with the longer word. The incidental social signalling of word choice is not what makes a slur.
Other examples of non-slurs using this rule: Jap(anese), Han(guk), Nip(ponese)
Actual slurs: raghead, chinky-eyed, porch monkey, etc.
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in reply to of nothing • • •These are literally the conditions for what determines a slur in the current year.
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in reply to Rot-Wing Death Squad • • •that's a cynical application of power and not something you have to acknowledge as actually true. The left punishes some slurs but overwhelmingly what the left punishes is disagreement, and the preferred expressions of the right are defined to be slurs simply as a means of justifying punishment.
You can say that you like slurs *and also* you like simply using convenient language without getting jerked around by Orwellian bullshit - literally, Orwellian bullshit explained by the villain in 1984 as a proof of obedience to the party.
But there are also people who don't particularly like slurs while still hating the Orwellian stuff.
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Say less and mean more, retards.
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I know I shouldn't tap the glass, but they just are so easy. But... thanks mom. I'll stop now.
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I mean, sometimes I don't want to just ignore and block because every now and then someone will tell me "there's no racism on the fediverse" and well it's not true.
However it's generally very effective to just ignore and block and or mute.
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The reporting is key, and showing us this so that we can also report it.
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Oh and as I should have absolutely said first I am so sorry. You are a treasure and deserve all the flowers and it's disheartening to see this kind of thing but I know it's out there but I'm sorry.
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in reply to Steve Gisselbrecht • • •salty "CunnyConnoisseur" apollyon
in reply to Steve Gisselbrecht • • •@stevegis_ssg @futurebird @claralistensprechen5th report us all you want retard it didn't change peoples opinions back when everyone was on twatter or facecuck, it's not gonna chage our opinions now when we're free of the tranny janny state
you're just making yourself more unlikeable and asking to be put on the rope you malformed pig fucker
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in reply to salty "CunnyConnoisseur" apollyon • •Oh dear, I caught you talking to yourself again, salty. Seek professional help.
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in reply to Steve Gisselbrecht • • •@stevegis_ssg @claralistensprechen5th
It never made it here, so good on our admins for aggressively blocking!
But also, @futurebird you are a total treasure and a gift to the world and I admire you immensely for your creativity, intelligence, and generosity with your time and attention.
I hope that pushes the balance a little more to the positive side.
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Coronahoax deaths are made up.
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Report this (a tranny getting executed in Peru)
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • •Well, that's why I'll sometimes engage. I'm a white person for whom none of those micro-minds represent despite their best efforts to claim to do so. Bugs are smarter than that bunch.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •Death to Jews, Niggers, and Faggots!
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Diversity has failed
There is an unfortunate angry backlash, but censorship will do that
As we warned you years ago...
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I've gotten a lot quicker with the mute button. If you are both a) aggressive and b) an idiot, goodbye. I don't even give one response any more. Too many trolls.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • •Oh I get it now. You're a jilted lover and you're the size of a whale.
Dagnar
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Whoever told you there is no racism in the fediverse is a fucking retard.
And your avi is a nigger.
PopulistRight
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •@futurebird @claralistensprechen5thWhere "effective" means preserving the illusion of a reality-bubble - which may be ease the mind in the short-term ala "Ignorance is Bliss," but does not reflect the real-world, and what is coming.
Allowing those who wish to separate to do so is the solution to "waaayyycism," for all concerned.
sim
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •@futurebird @claralistensprechen5th
It's usually a filter. They want you to mute/block them by saying something they think you will find outrageous because of the assumptions that you have made about the other side rather than asking people with family values or non-liberal values what they really think on here. Ignoring the posts or perhaps engaging seriously and reasonably if there is something to respond to is the way that I handle situations like this.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •@GrumbleshroomWe're not trollbots or Russian shills. We're Whites sick of the nigger plague brought upon by the chosenosenberg kikeowitzs & our patience has run out.
We are everywhere & not just online.
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in reply to DreddWing Block Squads • •Oh yes you are Ruzzian shills and trolls and an embarrassment to all white folks as a race. Y'all don't believe in evolution because you're still dragging your hairy knuckles. You're the pestilence plague the Bible keeps mentioning.
Grumbleshroom
in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •'Russian shills'? 'Don't believe in evolution'? You dumb faggots can't help but make shit up.
Evidence of your claims, nigger?
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •White People are better then all races!
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I accept evolution and its implication that niggers are relict hominids.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •>racism bad [unless you do whites] russia bad, china bad ,plz india give us free labor!!!
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •This really is your paradigm, isn't it? Mommy will make reality fit the Narrative and make everyone who disagrees just disappear.
Grow the fuck up.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •-white knighting for niggers and fags
-complaining about racism on fedi
-report and block
I've seen this before.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •PopulistRight
in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •@claralistensprechen5th @Grumbleshroom @futurebirdADL Bots, too? Ever hear of "Unit 8200"?
And then there is Peter Thiel's Palentir. Imagine what a Billion Dollars worth of "bots" could do.
Peter Thiel, the LGBTPedo-disease-pushing "activist," funded and created the persona of the "Jay Dee Vance" (pen-name) character in the SHOW.
But, yeah, lets pretend Race Realists are the "Real Bots."
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How to stop nigger crime with this amazing trick!
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in reply to Daniel Lakeland • • •@dlakelan
It's embarrassing for everyone.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •myrmepropagandist
in reply to Ericka Simone • • •@ErickaSimone
Yeah. Thanks for asking!
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •The Sleight Doctor 🃏
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •@dlakelan Not that this is going to make you feel much better, but that instance (decayable.ink) is a known, disgustingly racist, anti-LGBTQ troll farm.
This server has defederated from it and so have many others. I had to use a webpage, logged out, to see their posts.
Sorry you had to experience this. Some folks are just scum and will probably never change. 😔
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Most servers are defederated from clew.lol but it looks like this new-to-me server is still visible from my server.
I expect that will get resolved soon.
I think the ability to jump around servers is good for a lot of reasons but this is one reason it's really bad.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •the people who write up fediblocks are usually much faster than i am, but it doesn't stop me from trying to report when i see it anywhere
sorry about the mess
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I'm 49, so I can't answer the question of whether all this is real, but I can confidently say two things. I know you know this, but it bears repeating.
First, for conservatives, "family" means men *owning* their wives and children, most especially girls. When they say the "family" is being destroyed, they mean they fear the erosion of patriarchy. It's real "don't threaten me with a good time" stuff.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I think the Republicans are mad that their kids avoid them.
All those years of beating their kids because they were supposed to fear their parents and now, they never call. According to Republicans this must be becaue of the woke mind virus, and not say kids aren't economically tied to their abusive parents any more.
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Economic aspect was so engraved in my subconscious mind I had frequent dreams about screaming at my father "I am finally financially independent and now you couldn't blackmail me!" first several months in my first job.
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I'm so glad that you got away from that.
Humphrey Archer
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Yah
It's the weirdest thing that Conservatives often finger problems, or at least dynamics that are pretty true, but their solutions are most often bat-shit crazy or make things an order of magnitude WORSE.
Like they fuck things up even worse than if they had just left them alone
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •myrmepropagandist
in reply to Cat • • •@catmisgivings
Yeah, that's totally false. We live in a golden age of fidelity and commitment.
The secret? Only "commit" if you really want to.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •@catmisgivings
Amazing what "consent" accomplishes
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in reply to Jeremy Kahn • • •@trochee @catmisgivings
It's disturbing how it can be a "dangerous" idea for some people.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •The people who pule over divorce rates in 1980s-90s rarely ever praised the drop in women's suicide rates which occurred in tandem (right up until the emergence of synthetic opioids).
Probably just a coincidence that in 1973 under then-new federal law, adult women were able to open bank accounts and be financially independent of men whether fathers or husbands.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •History sheds light.
No-fault divorce was made legal in most US states by the 70s. Awareness of family ills like abuse was also growing through this time. Likewise, severe social prohibitions against sex before marriage were also dissolving outside of conservative religion.
Hence a divorce epidemic in the 80s, as tons of boomers fled unhappy marriages, the kinds of marriages that their parents' generations were forced to remain in.
As that settled out, we also had the rise of therapy being available and destigmatized. And the availability of birth control got pretty good, along with destigmatizing single parenthood. So people could take their time to know themselves and their partner before sealing the deal. (I'm guessing you'll also see the age of first marriages going way up over this time.)
To the religious right, that's what really destroyed "the family," which was super young sexually repressed horny kids rushing into marriages for the sex or because of pregnancy, then stuck with each other forever because the state would not allow divorce unless they
... show moreHistory sheds light.
No-fault divorce was made legal in most US states by the 70s. Awareness of family ills like abuse was also growing through this time. Likewise, severe social prohibitions against sex before marriage were also dissolving outside of conservative religion.
Hence a divorce epidemic in the 80s, as tons of boomers fled unhappy marriages, the kinds of marriages that their parents' generations were forced to remain in.
As that settled out, we also had the rise of therapy being available and destigmatized. And the availability of birth control got pretty good, along with destigmatizing single parenthood. So people could take their time to know themselves and their partner before sealing the deal. (I'm guessing you'll also see the age of first marriages going way up over this time.)
To the religious right, that's what really destroyed "the family," which was super young sexually repressed horny kids rushing into marriages for the sex or because of pregnancy, then stuck with each other forever because the state would not allow divorce unless they could prove adultry or very severe physical abuse. This type of family was much easier to control by authoritarian religions and workplaces. It stuck men to horrible jobs, and offered up easy victims for the predators of said systems.
And yes, religious and older folks have not updated these stats in their heads. All the social ills of the 80s have only gotten worse in their minds, because their influences have made no effort to correct it. Because those leaders want to go back to a time when a woman and children were their property, and no one pried into their business. This is also what "religious freedom" means to them.
#AbuseCulture
Moss Wizard
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Around WWII there was cultural expectation to marry and have kids, and gov funding made it possible. Their hippy kids married and had kids, but then realized it was a bummer, man, plus now they needed two incomes. So: latchkey kids raised by divorce. After that, nobody believed in the marriage and kids racket, and the cost of living kept going up. Now we have kids for whom the whole system is blown up from the start, and even two incomes won’t cover basic life. Booze costs too much, and who has help keeping a relationship together?
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myrmepropagandist
in reply to Daniel Lakeland • • •@dlakelan
Or it could be that people are lying less about having sex?
When I was younger I was kind of ashamed if I didn't have a "sex life" ... for guys this was way more intense and they all lied all the time about being players. It was very funny and obvious.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •suzanne
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I also wonder if it's a difference of definitions. I think there's possibly a lot of sex going on but not necessarily "traditional" penis penetrating vagina sex. Younger people may be considering it more like mutual masterbation and saying no. I do know there was a thing a while back about younger people not considering oral sex as sex.
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in reply to Daniel Lakeland • • •myrmepropagandist
in reply to Daniel Lakeland • • •@dlakelan
I'm so suspicious of this theory. It feels too much like a "just so" story and to me there are other more proximate reasons. I find the correlations interesting, they are just about good enough to be "possibly significant" but I still don't totally buy the causation aspect.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •If it were just a single country I'd think it was a just so story. But theres some things that make me think it could be real. People clinically confirmed to be lead exposed do show more cognitive and emotional problems. So theres a known mechanism. And, the correlations are similar across multiple regions of the world where timing of lead exposure are different.
I definitely dont think its a proven fact but I think its a way stronger suggestion than most social science results.
Colman Reilly
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •to be precise, young people are telling people doing surveys that they have less sex.
How that’s connected to how much sex they’re having and how it was connected in the past may not be the same.
Colm Donoghue
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Skyrocketing rents obviously hit those living alone the hardest.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •As a parent of 20-30 yr old kids, I can tell you this is the big problem. Earning enough to just break even as a single adult is damned difficult in this economy -- let alone make enough to get a real home or support a pregnant partner. They just haven't got the leisure time.
There are also problems with socializing and meeting people. A lot of that has gone online, and online is not really conducive to healthy dating, IMHO.
E.g. I met my wife in a college interest group, and those have kind of fallen apart, due to interest groups becoming virtual (so also online friends are often physically far apart, making in-person meetings awkward).
Adara Astin
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •> I also suspect some young people aren't dating or getting married or even going on vacation or having a drink ... because they are BROKE and working their fingers to the bone to survive.
In addition to this, how many people (of any age) aren't dating because they have long covid, or are caring for someone with long covid?
Ian Douglas Scott
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in reply to Alex • • •@amorphophalex
I have this very half-baked idea for some kind of absurdly woke not-for-profit matching making service.
It'd be called "Auntie"
You'd pour your heart out to a panel of certified aunties, they'd take some notes and give you the phone number of a nice lesbian or guy or gal or person. (or whatever is appropriate)
The prestige of the organization would be the success of the matches they make.
In most human cultures matchmaking is kind of important and not run by corporations.
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I'ma start calling my daughter and her best friend my aunties, they set me up with the best friend's mom and it was beautiful
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Maypop the Dragon
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •answering your question. presumably you want like, what my experience has been? idk.
i just turned 21 on august 28th, and i still live with my parents in a suburban house. i have not had sex in like, several years. i did have sex with my ex-girlfriend. it was kind of complicated and it's good that we have moved on. we were close friends since we were children and are still friends now. (to other people who don't know yet, don't try to let a breakup not bother you. it'll just hurt slower and longer that way.)
she was like, the only friend that i would regularly see outside of school, but now we are busy with our separate things and i don't get to be around friends much. she is in college (a different college than me) now, and as far as i know she seems to be doing better mentally than ever! which is awesome, of course.
i feel lonely pretty frequently. i don't find it impossible to make friends but it is a bit hard to approach people in general. i met someone just recently even and i have a signal group chat with her boyfriend too. but a lot of the time i still don
... show moreanswering your question. presumably you want like, what my experience has been? idk.
i just turned 21 on august 28th, and i still live with my parents in a suburban house. i have not had sex in like, several years. i did have sex with my ex-girlfriend. it was kind of complicated and it's good that we have moved on. we were close friends since we were children and are still friends now. (to other people who don't know yet, don't try to let a breakup not bother you. it'll just hurt slower and longer that way.)
she was like, the only friend that i would regularly see outside of school, but now we are busy with our separate things and i don't get to be around friends much. she is in college (a different college than me) now, and as far as i know she seems to be doing better mentally than ever! which is awesome, of course.
i feel lonely pretty frequently. i don't find it impossible to make friends but it is a bit hard to approach people in general. i met someone just recently even and i have a signal group chat with her boyfriend too. but a lot of the time i still don't have anyone there for me in the moment. it's especially bad when i need comfort (usually from negative thoughts/feelings from something bad happening) but have nobody to talk to because everyone is busy with sleeping or whatever.
i do have my immediate family, but like, i'm not telling them anything i'm gay (y'know?)
i also have a d*scord "server" that i like. the only one really. it does feel like a real community and is pleasant and fun, but people on the internet can't hug you and stuff. that's something i miss a lot. i feel so alone at night i want cuddles. plus i don't like making physical contact like that unless i'm very, very, very comfortable with the person. combine that with needing said physical contact and it's like. not very poggers.
and the people on there are often not awake or available at the same time as me. they live in many different time zones.
maybe i'm just weak and everyone deals with this though. idk.
myrmepropagandist
in reply to Maypop the Dragon • • •@maypop_neocities
I don't think you sound weak at all. Having a whole aspect of your social self that you can't really talk about normally with your family is hard. And building meaningful connections with people you don't know takes time and is also hard.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I'm single, have been for 15 years, and have no plans on a relationship. I'm not lonely, and find the whole concept of a male loneliness epidemic to be a pile of crap. Women have standards, and if these men can't meet those standards, the problem is with them, not women.
It's funny, because the premise seems to be that loneliness is exclusively a cis male phenomenon, and that it is based on sexual relationships, when really, everyone can be lonely, and for far more relationships than sexual ones. Another misogynistic tell, in my opinion. Lonely? Why not have some male friends? Because you are not lonely. You are sexually frustrated.
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in reply to Jordi and 1001 Opossums • •Where "male loneliness" and cis men coincide is at the point where there are white supremacists, Brahmin supremacists, in the mix and they're necessarily incels.
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in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •Being a heterosexual male is one of the most important roles in a functioning society and these queers hate real men for that role and made up a legally binding slur they engineered to be used as an insult like Gay was used to leverage Queer from faggots and into the laps of the mentally deranged who don't even know what to do with sex but socially masturbate.
faggots get the rope, but traitors first.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I'm in my nearly mid 30s. My wife turns 30 today. We waited on a lot of things, including children, because we could not afford them, both time and money.
I see my younger brother struggling to enter the dating pool, which I think is tied to how our society and its interaction within and without itself has changed in the last 20-30 years. I remember the times before cell phones and internet. It's just too easy to stay in and be plugged in. Like a dopamine drip.
Lone Spelunker
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I know three siblings in that age range, two of whom are in long term committed relationships, who have expressed a strict unwillingness to get married.
Why? Because their mom was awful and they saw what their dad had to get through in order to get away from her. Now they’re happy, the mom’s out of the picture, and the dad’s free. But it took decades.
I can see why kids witnessing people suffering broken marriages and messy divorces might sour on the idea of marriage.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I think the "loneliness epidemic" is because women would rather be alone than date a guy who sucks. This is also true for queer relationships, but it's especially a thing among straight people.
I've heard lesbians have a high divorce rate, but I'm willing to attribute that to the lesbian tendency to U-Haul across the country to be with someone you've never met irl.
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •trainguyrom
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •So my anecdata to add as someone smack dab in the middle of the age range you stated with both older and younger friends who also fall in that range:
For my wife and I's friends, almost all are unmarried, and the friends who are married seem to be going strong. The few people I know who are divorced had extremely toxic relationships that needed to end. So it seems people are focusing on healthier relationships above all else romantically.
I have observed people generally are really insulated and not going out and spending time with others. Even the middle school and high school in town at release time have next to nobody walking or biking home, and everyone's driving cars, and very few people are hanging out in public afterwards.
My friends are slow to schedule get togethers but we chat regularly digitally. I think everyone having computers to communicate on and provide constant dopamine drips and entertainment is making its effect on society right now and research is starting to show it.
Maxwell
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •As for the loneliness epidemic, I think a big factor of it is friendships being torn apart by people having to move to different cities/regions to find work.
Diligence Jones
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom had a really good post the other day about the 'male loneliness' 'crisis' where she observed how the patriarchy creates a social crisis (which demands empathy) out of a personal failing (ie, dudes lack basic social skills and their political/social values aren't hitting it on the marketplace of getting laid).
In the same studies identifying this male loneliness, she saw women are also lonely but funny how that hasn't risen to 'crisis' level.
samiamsam
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •i'm early 60s and didn't want kids, didn't have kids, i did get married then divorced and i've been single most of my adult life, i tried to live with people but i found that i'm much happier living by myself and i'm not lonely
tangentially, i find the 'poor men are lonely' to be BS - women adapt and grow and change, men expect everything to be handed to them
men have power and privilege and could change their dynamic overnight, but they don't or won't
that is on them
foxcat
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •idk, I haven't tried dating because idk what I'd put and also im bad at taking pictures.
I find that you don't get much chance to talk to people IRL as everyone likes to keep to themselves, which I do too. Seems dating apps are the only way lol.
I've also heard how dating apps are rigged if you're male so yeah idk, and they always make you pay to see new matches (which I never have cause it's dumb and a scam).
Trevor Mullen
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in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •I am 32 and married. My wife and I have been together since 16.
I can tell you that in our peer group we're outliers. We have a few friends in serious relationships now but almost all of our married friends are 10+ years older. I have a very, very large social group (I'm really extroverted) and there's a LOT of complaints about loneliness and singledom. This seems to be driven by isolation, mental health issues and past abuse giving them an aversion to dating. The silver lining is that those abusive relationships didn't become abusive marriages.
Valdus
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Well as far as marriage rates go, they're kind of a bad statistic. It doesn't account for the fact that people tend to cohabitate before marriage, which wasn't the case historically. It's also dependent on the specifics of marriage law in a country, as well as changes in culture. If people want to and can marry, and marriage is advantageous, people will do it.
The loneliness epidemic, however, exists outside of marriage rates. Young people today don't just have fewer romantic partners, they also have fewer casual sexual relations, fewer friends, smaller families, and attend far fewer social events.
This has lots of factors, like many cultural practices being abandoned for being too toxic, which is good, but too few replacements are made due to economic and sometimes legal difficulties. It's true that people can socialize less in person if they spend time on their phones or whatever, but if you experience the contrast of a socially healthy environment and a toxic one, you'll notice that people obviously still spend more time socializing when it's more pleasant.
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... show moreWell as far as marriage rates go, they're kind of a bad statistic. It doesn't account for the fact that people tend to cohabitate before marriage, which wasn't the case historically. It's also dependent on the specifics of marriage law in a country, as well as changes in culture. If people want to and can marry, and marriage is advantageous, people will do it.
The loneliness epidemic, however, exists outside of marriage rates. Young people today don't just have fewer romantic partners, they also have fewer casual sexual relations, fewer friends, smaller families, and attend far fewer social events.
This has lots of factors, like many cultural practices being abandoned for being too toxic, which is good, but too few replacements are made due to economic and sometimes legal difficulties. It's true that people can socialize less in person if they spend time on their phones or whatever, but if you experience the contrast of a socially healthy environment and a toxic one, you'll notice that people obviously still spend more time socializing when it's more pleasant.
You could blame young people for lacking social skills, but even if that's true it's because their economic reality hasn't given them any room to actually develop those skills. If you have no money and no vacation and your city is designed to be hostile to the public, you'll find yourself with nowhere to go, nothing to do, and no time to do it. Throw in a covid curveball if you want to disadvantage the youths even harder.
I also think it's funny so many people are blaming toxic masculinity for these problems. It's surely relevant in that patriarchy made the system that made the problems, but the biggest factor for young people becoming radicalized and difficult to socialize with is them already being environmentally isolated. Nobody can call you on your bullshit if you never had any friends because your parents couldn't even legally let you walk outside as a child.
To top it off, the most isolated people are queer anyway. I don't think anyone can reasonably argue that the most isolated demographics, trans people and bisexuals (what the), are somehow the most socially toxic people rather than victims of a toxic environment.
sharplet
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Humphrey Archer
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •Not that age group, but have read several studies on parts of this.
Dating down
Sex down
Alcohol down
Loneliness up
Suicide up
Also "deaths of despair" up- which captures more than the ICD codes for "suicide"
But also, continuing long-term trend of "civic participation" down. Like for over a century, year on year drop in membership of clubs, teams, unions, groups, etc. Just less engagement in civic activities of all kinds
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Unknown parent • • •lmao imagine wanting to be friends with a bunch of faggots who you have to walk on eggshells with so they don't turn into snakes and bite you
fuck that shit, the only people who are worth keeping as friends is those you can bantz with
not a bunch of homos that go kill christian children the moment you "misgender" them
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Unknown parent • • •@ChristiJunior
Yeah that's me!
your profile on the other hand, indicates that you are having a hard time in life.
you might be less lonely if you decided to approach people in a friendly way, and then you could be kind to them, this makes it easier to make friends.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •@Twitter @myrmepropagandist
..and that's the best you can come up with because a slug has a bigger brain than you have. Surprise surprise surprise--it's the sub-slug who fancies he's human.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •Well well well--the sub-slug is smart enough to know that there's more where that came from.
How about you make a slime trail back to your trailer park, bubba boy. Your moonshine misses you.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •So you think we exist for the sole purpose of scaring you, huh.
No, kid, you're being told to sit down and shut up because your momma didn't want to do it to raise you right.
And I think I hear her calling you. How 'bout that. You sound just like the kind of guy she'd tell to sleep in the basement.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •When your face looks like that you ought to be.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •@Twitter @myrmepropagandist
If it acts like a kid, whines like a kid, throw tantrums like a kid, you're a kid. I know 4 year olds who have better conduct. Any given slug supremacist would be within his rights to demand respect from your ilk.
I can see you keep coming back for more, so it's my guess somebody's gonna run a Fedi poll to vote in favor of you & me getting a room, hon. You came here looking for love and now you're stuck with ME. Congratulations.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •What's cool about all this is that your clusterfuckerage gives me one-stop shopping for instance addresses. 😁
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Unknown parent • •Yeah, keep on thinking like that. Instances are run by actual people who actually care about this sort of fuckerage and isolation is a bitch when it becomes your personal echo chamber. How do I know? I've seen the results of fedi-isolation on qoto. I've personally seen how well it works. Thanks for playing.
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Unknown parent • •...predictably. I knew that before you told me.
What's common about you common sub-slugs is that when you're out of thoughts and wits, which is most of the time, the best come-back you can muster is violence--you got nothin', boy. Violence is all you got and even monkeys have better ideas than you do. You got NOTHING.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •Liar. You take me seriously enough to keep coming back for more, boy.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •It looks just like you. I'll bet that's on your driver's license, if you have one. You seem to be the type that gets yours revoked.
Radio Free Trumpistan
Unknown parent • •Well, my old bones are gonna take a break from you for now so don't pine for me--tomorrow is another day and I'll be back. I do take pity on your not having a date on this Saturday night, boy. Young'uns like you being on here as entertainment for senior citizens is hilarious, but I've gotta make book on you being an incel. Nighty night!
Patsy (she/her)
in reply to myrmepropagandist • • •in real life, I have been an auntie for only 8 years, but I think spiritually I have always been an auntie. It is my calling.
So, sign me up
StarProphet
in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •@claralistensprechen5th
Gas the kikes and hang the niggers high!
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Catnip Junkie
in reply to Radio Free Trumpistan • • •@claralistensprechen5th @thomasroiloup @stevegis_ssg @rlier23
Go for it, paint yourselves into the faggot corner with the other gelded faggots, faggot. Keep threatening us with a more heterosexual fedi experience, please.